Poems & Essays

23 Feb

Song of Coos

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The sound a butterfly’s wing makes

as it flutters languidly on a branch

is quieter than the puffs of breath from sleeping babies

Soft wet dreams flit about in their sweet-smelling heads

Honey sweet lips form coos and hesitant smiles

Babies grab at the sleek newness of skin

The world is a gift and they want to rip open the wrapping

I revel in their growth every day

Trying to commit every sound, every smile to memory

Storing those precious remembrances in my mind

as though I am pressing flowers into books

My children bloomed inside me

And every day after their birth

their petals unfurl a little bit more


Ophelia Leong is a wife and mother of three who loves to write. She has been published in Assisi: An Online Journal of Arts and Letters and the University of Pacific’s magazine, Calliope.

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23 Feb

It’s Time

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No one ever says much

about the mother of the groom,

so she didn’t know

that even if she survived

the plaintive love

of the tenor’s song

she would not be safe

when the crowd dropped

into the wordless it’s time

and the groom stepped up to the altar.


A silent vacuum,

that inward gasp

opening itself

before an unexpected sound,

began in her.

An uncontrollable sob

rising from the groin

of the earth used her

to breathe out a millennia

of partings. The shuddering

walls of her womb reached

for each other, empty hands

groping for what they once held.


She remembers just yesterday

waiting for the contractions

to begin, the pain

of his skinned knee

or latest disappointment

to ease, for his letter or car

to pull safely into the drive.


He can’t get married;

he’s her firstborn

and he just turned three.

She wants to take him in her arms,

look into his deep bright eyes and ask

for just a little more time.

Irene Howe is the author of The Song She Guards (Biddle Publishing Company 1995) in which this poem first appeared.

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23 Feb

In Celebration of the Empty Nest

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My 18-year-old daughter, Sarah, is loading her SUV with as much of her childhood as she can squeeze into the vehicle and still have room for the two of us. It’s three days past her high school graduation, and she’s getting ready to move out of state to attend cosmetology school.

We’ve just had her graduation party, a small gathering of neighbors and friends who have come to wish her well. And, it seems, to offer me their condolences.

“She’s moving already?” they marvel. “Why wouldn’t she want to stay for the summer?” And then, when they think she’s out of earshot, “How are you holding up, mom?”

I respond the way I think I’m supposed to. I roll my eyes, shrug my shoulders and sigh. “I’m okay.”

I feel compelled to lie about how I’m really feeling. Somehow, it seems coldhearted to say that I’m glad she’s leaving. It’s not that I want to be rid of her, but I’m grateful that she has the conviction to follow her dreams. But that sounds a bit like bragging. So I shake my head and accept condolences, pretend that I’m sadder than I am.

What I really want to say is that I’m thrilled. What I want more than condolences is commendation. What I wish just one person would offer is this. “You must be a great mom to have raised such an independent daughter.”

Really that’s all I’ve ever tried to do. Give my girls the confidence to stand on their own two feet. Not in a mean-spirited or critical way, but, I hope, in a nurturing way that gives them the skills to make their own way in the world.

Will I miss her? Of course. Will I still worry about her? Every day. But am I proud that she’s ready to spread her wings and fly? More than I can say.

I’m not afraid of the empty nest. I see it as a major accomplishment, proof that I’ve done something right in my life. I’m ready to wear it like a badge of honor that I’ve mastered one of the most difficult of life’s challenges. I’ve nurtured a human being from a helpless infant who relies on me for everything into a confident, productive adult ready to take her place in the world.

In the days following Sarah’s grad party, we sort through her belongings, relegating some items into bins in the basement. Stuffing the rest into her vehicle.

As we drive out of the neighborhood—her behind the wheel, me in the passenger seat— I watch our house disappear in the rearview mirror. I don’t see an empty nest at all, but rather a loving home full of memories, expanding to receive the many wonders that the next phase of my life will bring.


Jill Wilbur Smith received an MFA in creative writing from Hamline University. Her work has appeared in A Cup of Comfort for Parents of Children with Autism, and on her blog, The Autism Fractal, which she co-authors with her oldest daughter. She lives in Minnesota with her husband. She has two grown daughters who are finding their way in life without her daily guidance.

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