Poems & Essays

17 Aug


General/Column One Response

Far out on the sea of dreams
I am tossed about until I can cast my rope
towards the shore of morning, float back to you,
secure the boat of our bed to the dock of home

Our young colt of a son
knobby-kneed and long-limbed, downy and spiky
cannot tie his tie yet

Teach him please, you with your big gentle hands,
you, our anchor

Every day I go about gathering memories in a basket
like delicate flowers that once plucked will wilt

Even as they fade, they are beautiful,
even if only a mild fragrance lingers

the scent of youth, fleeting – mine, yours, his

Yesterday, I took a turn too quickly on a snow covered road
and I sailed in my little red car

I didn’t know in those moments where I would land
but I saw that I could take nothing with me

and then, I was given everything back

Teach him please, you with your big gentle heart
Teach him to tie his tie

and then, too, to untie it


Christine Kouwenhoven is a writer/artist residing in Baltimore, Maryland. She is the mother of three with her husband, Nick. Christine has a B.A. in English/Writing from Connecticut College and an M.A. from The Writing Seminars at Johns Hopkins University. She works at Baltimore School for the Arts, a public arts high school, where she is Director of Communications & Grants and helps to raise money for aspiring young artists: dancers, musicians, visual artists, actors, and perhaps some future writers too.

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17 Aug

I’ve Liked These Days

General/Column One Response

waking you up in the mornings, toasting waffles and brewing coffee
unkempt hair and where are my shoes and
school bags too heavy to carry to the bus.

I’ve liked watching you get on board and still,
once in a while, waving from the window.

How quiet the house as I’ve gone from room to room to room
making beds, smoothing the crevices where your bodies have been,
picking up clothes and closing drawers.

I’ve liked these afternoons

sideline afternoons, running, chasing afternoons.
I’ve liked opening the door to the car, to the house, for you to tumble in,
wearing your day, dirty-kneed, crumpled, tired, happy, hungry.

I’ve liked feeding you
sitting at the dinner table with candles and homework and questions
reminding and minding manners, talking with you and you and you.

I’ve put these days in the bank the way my grandmother
said I should do with precious things.

And these nights, nights when you’ve slept
and I’ve wandered from bed to bed to bed
as if you were still tiny and a new miracle

I’ve liked these nights.

I’ve listened for your breath in the moonlit rooms
and I haven’t thought about the days
racing by or about you leaving as you will and should.

I’ve just stood quietly in the great vault of our house, key in hand

and I’ve saved them too.


Christine Kouwenhoven is a writer/artist residing in Baltimore, Maryland. She is the mother of three with her husband, Nick. Christine has a B.A. in English/Writing from Connecticut College and an M.A. from The Writing Seminars at Johns Hopkins University. She works at Baltimore School for the Arts, a public arts high school, where she is Director of Communications & Grants and helps to raise money for aspiring young artists: dancers, musicians, visual artists, actors, and perhaps some future writers too.

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17 Aug

My Little Ones

General/Column No Response

They go forward
with the brightness of trust
on their backs and with laughter
that loves the other’s affection
and humorous ways.
They run water through their chubby hands,
opening and closing fingers in grand delight.
They are testing the ground, days
of love and giving the whole of their intensity
to growing up.
His colour is deep blue and hers is olive
with a yellowish hue.
They grace this home and atone for the damage
of other failed dreams.
They are smiles etched on my shoestrings,
coins under the carpet, a sprinkler in
the noonday sun.
They give and they receive, rich with the substance
of these and of all spectacular worthy things.


Allison Grayhurst is a member of the League of Canadian Poets. She has over 550 poems published in more than 275 international journals and anthologies. Her book Somewhere Falling was published by Beach Holme Publishers in 1995. Since then she has published eleven other books of poetry and six collections with Edge Unlimited Publishing. Prior to the publication of Somewhere Falling she had a poetry book published, Common Dream, and four chapbooks published by The Plowman. Her poetry chapbook The River is Blind was published by Ottawa publisher above/ground press in December 2012. In 2014 her chapbook Surrogate Dharma was published by Kind of a Hurricane Press, Barometric Pressures Author Series in October 2014. More recently, she has a chapbook Currents pending publication this August with Pink.Girl.Ink. Press. She lives in Toronto with her family. She also sculpts, working with clay; www.allisongrayhurst.com.

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17 Aug

Milestones Don’t Matter

General/Column 2 Responses

At the time of writing, I have a seven-year-old son who doesn’t yet read fluently and a two-year-old son who doesn’t yet walk steadily. In our family, milestones don’t matter.

Upstairs in the bedroom, following a dizzying shower, those words filled the space between the midwife and me. Down below, in the dead of night, my husband cradled our new baby in his arms. Flappy-footed, spindly-legged, wide-eyed and alien-faced, this newly landed creature mesmerized from first sight. Earlier, held captive by his beautiful face, I’d briefly wondered how those legs would ever hold him. Our son—an unexpected delight who arrived just two months after I turned forty-one.

Declining all but a dating scan, I waited to welcome whomever had the tenacity to turn up forty weeks after contraception failure and a miscalculation of ovulation dates had me scurrying to the doctor like a sheepish teenager. Knowing people who struggled to conceive or suffered the misery of miscarriage, I felt blessed that I had fallen so easily. Whoever was coming our way was here to stay, and information from an ultrasound wasn’t going to change that; this unborn child was already family.

Love struck, I calmly drank in the upward turn of his eyes, the stubby hands with the pointed pinkie fingernails—a throwback to ones I had tended as a student nurse. The odds were one in a hundred—99% unlikely to happen—but the presence of an extra chromosome was written all over his body. I held this secret discovery close to my chest.

In the hush of the living room, our daughter looked on as every last fiber of placenta was examined. The cord, instead of rooted deep in the belly of this tree of life, was a loose-limbed branch barely clinging to the extremity; the connection of this knotted cable, this rope of existence, could have been severed at any moment.

He’s special. He’s meant to be here, said the midwife. I didn’t realize that she was letting me know that she, too, knew the truth about my son’s hidden extra.

As I lay on the sofa, fresh flesh snuggling into me, husband and daughter leaning in close, the midwife turned to me and asked, So, have you looked at him, Angela?”


“And what do you think?”

“He looks a little downsy to me.”

In the bedroom, she said, “It’s okay to grieve for the baby you didn’t have, but I hadn’t been expecting any particular child. With no imaginary baby forming in my mind for nine months, nothing was lost. There had been no mourning sickness.

“He might take longer to reach his milestones,” she said.

“Then he couldn’t have chosen a better place. We’re a home educating family; milestones don’t matter.”

The pediatrician worries that our son might fall far behind—that he will never bridge the widening gap, a legacy borne of living in a world of diagnosis and dread. We see a different picture, know that the only gap to bridge is a sea change into a world that sees beyond the shape and form of him to the human heart within. Since birth, our son has been growing his own way; an ordinary unfolding guided by the innate intelligence that resides within all life.

Once mole-like, his eyes soon lit up beneath a solitary arched brow as he examined his steepled fingers; upstanding for the morning sermon. He babbled on, speaking fluently in a tongue we could not understand but which seemed to make sense with inflections and pauses in all the right places. Belly down, head up, arching as a bow. Arms outstretched, he looked like a skydiver falling in free flow. Nothing could deter him from moving forward, from discovering his edges and what lies beyond.

The physiotherapist puts a basket of blocks on a low table to entice him to stand on his own two feet. Another block box sits upon a stool. The idea is that my son will hover betwixt and between, freestanding, then walking. We do not do these exercises at home. He has his own way of achieving the same end, does so of his own volition, no gimmicks or enthusiastic encouragement required. When home, he pushes dining table chairs along like a miniature furniture removal man. Straddling stool and piano, he stretches up to tickle the ivories in a gentle, melodic manner simply because he loves experimenting with sound. His body wisdom, preparing him for independent travel, knows that this will lead to stronger legs.

These movements have purpose. In trying to reach some tantalizing object or eye-catching place, an inner impetus propels him. He is growing from the inside out; behavior follows thought. This insightful unfolding must impact his development. In my experience, learning that has come from quenching my thirst is never lost to me. Standing at the helm of his own earth ship, my son knows his power. Rather than reaching some unmoving target, what matters is having the freedom and space to respond to this inner drive. This instead of pushing towards, and forever never measuring up to, a developmental pattern he wasn’t designed for.

We see beyond the shape and form of him to the genius potential within.

Nearing the point of ripe readiness, my seven-year-old is on the verge of reading by making out short words. Surrounded, as he is, by language and storytelling and a love of books, his desire to decipher the mysterious black patterns is a given. With a drive to master his own physicality, it is inevitable that my two-year-old will walk. He is right on target, steered by the same spirit that makes grass grow, flowers bloom, and the earth turn. Though they may need kind words and a gentle hand to hold when the path of life gets a little tricky to navigate, the way is already known to them.

I watch my son, grin planted on his face, arms up, hands fist-balled at his shoulders. He readies himself on his unsteady legs and launches free of the chair’s safety net. He lurches forward, staggering like a drunk and takes a few steps. He catches my eye and claps himself. I can’t help myself. I join his celebration and clap along with glee.

Maybe milestones do matter after all.


Angela Dawson is a thought-less mother, home educator, word weaver, spirit lifter, hope spreader, way shower, spark finder and inveterate instagram snapper who celebrates the ordinary moments in life. Her writing about raising children, natural learning and what it means to be human can be found over at A Spacious Life.


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