Review of The Self-Care Solution by Julie Burton
Julie Burton’s The Self-Care Solution could not have arrived in my mailbox at a better time. Currently balancing a full-time job, full-time school, and two children I often wonder if I’m doing enough for my family as the laundry piles up and I race around looking for the soccer and baseball uniforms. Burton’s words assure me that I am doing enough and further, that I need to pursue my passion for writing when she advises, “…don’t let your kids be the only thing you care deeply about or the only aspect of your life that brings you joy.” As moms, we need to cultivate interests independent of our children.
In The Self-Care Solution Burton drives home the importance of a mother’s influence in the household and on her family. She interviewed hundreds of mothers and weaves her knowledge and their feedback into a poignant guide for mothers’ of all types. She doesn’t claim to have one-size fits all solution but offers talking points for working and stay-at–home moms. No matter how many children we have or how many hours we work, moms must put their health and well-being first. She guides the reader through asking herself tough questions and finding solutions to enable the reader to take action on improving her mental, physical, and spiritual health. The simplest of questions like, “Do you know what makes you happy?” can be the hardest to answer. She outlines steps for how to cultivate self-care and ends each chapter with strategies and tools that are easy to digest. For example, one of the tools she suggests is as easy as, “Ask for help.”
Burton shares her personal struggles with the mind set of perfectionism and with an eating disorder, building a bridge between herself and the reader. Burton is warm and non-judgmental in her approach and encourages women to support each other and not to engage in the “mommy wars.”
The Self-Care Solution is a must read for all moms, especially those who may feel overwhelmed and don’t make time for themselves. Burton shows us we are not alone in the vast world of motherhood. She is honest in voicing the everyday frustrations she experiences with her children and husband, but more importantly, she makes us aware of the beauty in the everyday aspects of mothering. Reading this book has helped me to realize I don’t have to be perfect every day or any day for that matter, but if I am not at my best and don’t take care of myself, I won’t be the model I want to be for my children.
Burton is kind and engaging, and I would love to swap stories with her over a glass of wine.
Bio: Julie Burton is an experienced writer specializing in self-care, parenting, and relationships. She earned her master’s degree in journalism from Northwestern University’s Medill School of Journalism, is the former editor of Momtalk magazine, and has written for many local and national websites and publications. She blogs at juliebburton.com, is the co-founder of the Twin Cities Writing Studio, and teaches writing, yoga, and wellness workshops. Julie lives in Minnetonka, MN, with her husband and four children.
Our reviewer Maura Maros is pursuing her Master’s in Creative Writing at Wilkes University. She is a full-time working mom. In addition to raising two children, she is pursuing her dream of becoming a published writer.